Through owning my own business and having financial ups and downs over the past few years, my eyes have been spread WIDE open when it comes to money, success, and happiness.
There’s this idea in our society that success is measured in fancy cars, big houses, expensive clothing, and luxurious vacations. I previously wrote about societal pressures and how they affected my life and my goals. Since then, I’ve realized I don’t care about most of those things.
I love cars, but you can only drive one at a time, and rarely very fast. I’d love a huge house, but for what? I live a fairly minimalist lifestyle and barely have enough things to fill a 1,500 square foot home (which is great). Would I love to have multiple homes in locations around the world? Sure . . . but I certainly don’t need them.
While I am motivated by money, it’s not to have ridiculous amounts of it; it’s to have plenty to feel comfortable. Once you don’t have to think about how you’ll pay your mortgage payment, you kind of stop dreaming about a bigger house. When I started to think more about what truly made me happy, I stopped focusing on what other people told me I needed to feel successful.
I feel like I’ve woken up. I feel like I’ve spent time figuring out what really matters to ME. I feel like I don’t need society (or advertising) to tell me what things I want in life.
Today, what’s important to me is having four freedoms:
- The freedom to work from anywhere, not tied down to a certain city or office.
- The freedom to know all my bills are paid each month and to not have to worry about them.
- The freedom to choose how I want to run my business.
- The freedom to understand that I don’t need things, I just want them, and that those feelings will often pass (normally after I stop watching TV).
So much of my past life has been influenced by other people and old ideals. Through meeting people like Joshua and Ryan, removing negativity from life, and writing my book, I’ve started to shape what feels like my life.
I encourage you to take some time to think about the things that you think bring you value. I hope you’ll take a moment to look at the life you’re currently living. What do you really need? What really makes you happy? What can you remove? What can you change?